I promised myself that when I got back to this that I would make a statement. The statement would show everyone that I was back but doing things slightly different this time. Then I found myself getting in this whole making a statement kick in other areas of my life. I’ve always been one to speak my mind, let it be known how I feel, my position on a matter and the why to it all. It’s not that I have this need to constantly explain myself but I do have this uncontrollable urge to get my point across. No longer in this impactful, intimidating, extreme type of way but more like in a “Hey. You know what? Here’s what I think about this and I respect and/or care about you enough to tell you why.” kind of way. It’s a me thing. It’s a guy thing. It’s a respect thing. Here’s why you always need to make a statement.
With age comes a lot of maturing. Plenty of day-to-day and big picture things where you need to let it be known where you stand on a matter. Why you feel the way you do. And exactly what you intend to do about it. Let’s pass on the routine stuff for now. I think you know what it takes to get through your day. Let’s go big picture baby. I’m defining big picture in this case as life. My life. Your life. A man’s life. Single or married. Young or old. We’re talking life! Go listen to “That’s Life” by Frank Sinatra too. You’re welcome. Your health, your relationships, your career, your money. All a part of your present and your future. All big picture. All require making a statement. Why? If these things…matters…people do not know where you stand and the why to it all, then you will never get what you want out of life. Remember, we only get one crack at life. Here, listen to ol’ T. Your health… “I’m going to the gym 5 days a week. I’m getting on a meal plan. I’m cutting back on alcohol. I’m getting a solid 8 every night. Here’s how and why.” Statement made. This is to yourself. To your future. Your relationships… Family first of course… “I’m trying to be the best son/brother/uncle/cousin I can be and I want you to know that. Here’s how and why.” Statement made. Friends… “As a friend I want to be a part of your life. I make time for you and the things you care about. I’m here. You don’t want to be in my life? You don’t have time for me? We’ve out grown each other? It’s time to part ways.” Statement made. Women… “I like you. I’m telling you this. I’m showing you this. I pay attention to you. As busy as I am, I’ll always find time for you. I don’t play games with you.” Statement made. Your career… “Here’s what I’ve done. Here’s what I’m doing. Here’s where I plan to go. The results speak for themselves. Let’s make something great here or I can go elsewhere and make greatness there.” Statement made. Your money… “I make this amount. I spend this amount. I save this amount. I invest this amount. I want this amount.” Statement made. See what I’m saying?
Now of course I just generalized a ton! But you’re picking up what I’m putting down. So try it. Make the statement and follow through. Let it be known to yourself that you are committed to your health. Let the people in your life know what they mean to you and how much. Go tell that girl why you deserve to take her out and that you want to make her smile and why you want to see that smile as often as possible. Let your manager and co-workers know how valuable you are and how hard you work. Go get your money right and invest in your damn future. Because you need to make a statement. You need to be as honest as possible to yourself. And you need to follow through. Every…single…day. Even on the weekend. Don’t coast through life without making it known who you are and what you’re all about. People may like you for it. They may dislike you for it. But trust me, you’ll be better off one way or the other with or without them. Make a statement. Men make statements. Like Jay-Z once said “A closed mouth don’t get fed.”
Until next time. Always take it there.