This T-pisode is a direct follow-up to last week’s T-pisode where I defined “The Counteroffer” and when, how and why it should be used in the dating game. While “The Counteroffer” seemed pretty clear-cut when writing it out, “The Callout” is a different beast altogether. It requires some tact and a lot of clarity. Especially in the dating world we all live in now where the bulk of our dating communication and information comes from texting and social media. “The Callout” walks a very fine line of social media stalking as well but if you have solid communication you will not need “The Callout.” Let me explain…
So, what is “The Callout” exactly? “The Callout” is when you’re dating someone who tends to keep from you the fact that they are dating or kind of dating or talking to other people and will not share that with you for whatever reason(s) they may have. So you have to make the executive “adult” decision to either “call them out” on it or not. Now like I said, if you have great communication with someone then you both should have made it clear once you are officially dating that you’re either exclusive with one another or you’re both cool with casually dating each other and other people simultaneously. It’s both your prerogative how you want to date. Just be on the same page. If you’re not and you have suspicions and would like to clear the air, then you must invoke your dating right to “The Callout.” For example, if you are dating a woman who tends to go ghost on you by not committing to your next date but still has an obvious strong interest in you, you are most likely going to follow her social media like a hawk. It’s just in our nature in 2016. It can be an unhealthy road but we all do it. While following her along you remember a guy from her Facebook or Instagram way back when and she kept the pic up. Odds are she still has some contact with the guy. And now she is Snapchatting away without showing herself or the guy or her friends and at the same time that guy is Instagramming pics from the same place she is at…red flags all over the field. Because it’s a safe bet she is out with that guy. It’s easy to piece together and you don’t have to be Batman to figure it out. Now you may be doing the same thing. Even if it’s unintentional it’s still not ok. The two of you either didn’t communicate enough or you are both lower in each other’s “dating priority” than you thought. Hey, it happens. We ALL give certain people more attention than others because we WANT it to work with them SO much but know it never will. So we give the rest less attention while actually only hurting ourselves. And now you are in a position where you need to bust out “The Callout” and allow it to finally start THAT conversation. Risking it all while knowing that conversation may even be a bit painful. So what? You’re both adults and you let it go this far. Time to talk, baby.
“The Callout” is a 50/50 split that will either finally bring two people to that next level that they both wanted or it will end the whole thing. Yep, that’s fact. And that is why I keep preaching that honesty, intent and communication are three of the most important things when it comes to dating. Games are for kids. Lies are for losers. And social media shouldn’t be a weapon that you are forced to use on someone you have feelings for. Dating has changed, yes. But you can still be a good person and do the right thing when it comes to dating. Trust me, I know and I do.
Next week…300. Like the Spartans. Wait, what?
Until next time. Always take it there.